Marriage in Islam is a very important case so How to choose your potential partner and marriage etiquettes
“When a person gets married he has completed half of his religion, so let him fear Allaah with regard to the other half.” Narrated by Al-Bayhaqiin Shu’ab al-Eemaan from al-Raqaash.
Marriage is a social institution as old as the human race itself. It is a legal relation associates’ man and a woman for a purpose of keeping human race and a social contract with wide and varied responsibilities and duties. Marriage makes incomplete human being complete; it is a source to experience happiness, empathy, love, tranquility, peace and security. Marriage is necessary to make a family and it was admitted by all divinely revealed laws. Allah (SWT) says: “And He has put between you affection and mercy” (Quran, 30:21)
Prophet Mohammad (SAW) stated that: “Men and women are twin halves of each other” (Bukhari). AS your partner is the one with whom you will spend all life, there must be criteria to help you find the best husband or wife to have a happy and long marital life free from misunderstanding stress and everything that displeases Allah. The following passages are the steps that will help you finding your second half.
Choose an honest life partner
Honesty in Relationships Is Non-Negotiable. It involves a few key practices: never lying, never hiding the truth, and never purposefully omitting or misdirecting people from the truth. It is telling your partner the truth and being totally open with them, both for the big things and the little things. If you find out that your groom or bride is telling lies all time then you must just leave as it is a solid reason to seek that as lies build an environment of insecurity and distrust which can never form concrete bases for a healthy marriage. It does not mean a groom or bridge shall talk about their previous relationship from which they have repented as it is not a wise act or even recommended in sharia. The Messenger of Allaah says: “Every son of Adam is prone to err, and the best of those who err are those who repent.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi. “Love is honesty without cruelty and loyalty without compromise.”
Religiousness, piety and morals
Having good morals is a basic characteristic when in looking for a wife or a husband
A man came to the Muhammad (S) to seek guidance in connection with the selection of a spouse. He (S) said to him:
.عليك بذات الدين
“It is (binding) upon you to have a religious spouse.” choose someone who practices Islam in their, speeches, morality, and all the rest of his life’s matters are subject to Islam, an individual would really be decent and gentle. As Islam is not merely a set of a few obvious practices that anybody performing them may be a real religious one.
marriage a with (you to comes one If “اذا جاءکم من ترضون خلقه و دينه فزوجوه واال تکن فتنۀ فی االرض و فساد کبير proposal) , and you are satisfied with his manners and his religion, then give him (your daughter) in marriage. Otherwise, there would be a great mischief and corruption in the land” (Wasael 20:76).
According to Hadith of the prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H)
“A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character), so marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper.” (Bukhari) the same criteria applies when it comes to women choosing husband. Within piety lies all of the other noble characteristics that make both men and women eligible spouses. According to Qur-aan, piety is the key to a person’s eligibility, not beauty.
Nobility of the Family
This does not mean fame, wealth, and social status. Rather it means purity, modesty and religiousness as Marriage with someone is equal to a bond with a family, tribe, and a race. “The prophet of Islam (S) stood to deliver a speech and said,
“Oh people, beware of the greenery (growing) upon a dung hill. He was asked “Oh prophet of Allah (a.s), what is the greenery on the dung hill?”
He replied, “A beautiful woman raised and brought up in a bad nursery (family).
4- A Husband with a constant job regardless what it is as it the way a husband can provide his family needs and can guarantee an honorable life condition.
“But the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother’s food and clothing on a reasonable basis” [al-Baqarah 2:233]
5- Find someone who is able to forgive, tolerate and is not able to bear grudges or hatred. Ibn Mas’ud reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Shall I not tell you for whom the Hellfire is forbidden? It is every person accessible, kind, and easy-going.”
6-Near to you in the ideological and cultural levels as divorce may happen due to a huge gap between the two parties.
when you reach your goal be sure there are etiquettes of seeking a spouse
- When you speak, be businesslike and to the point.
- Talk to the girl’s parents not to her
- When you meet, don’t be alone.
- third party” comes in handy ask about him or her before you proceed. A reference can include an Imam who knows the brother who proposed to you. A sister who knows the woman you may want to marry well, a family friend, a boss, a co-worker, and/or business partner.
- Get someone to help especially parents, relatives, an Imam, and/or respected and trustworthy members of the Muslim community.
May Allah bless your marriage and gather you both in kheir.
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